Saturday 12 July 2014

Peace is Natural between India and Pakistan

Peace is Natural between India and Pakistan

The hardcore ground reality is that common men of India and Pakistan do not want war and hostility between the two countries. War is not good for them, and they know it. War will push them behind the world, which is marching for new heights of progress, prosperity and technology. But there are certain elements on both sides of the border who want to ignite the fire of hatred against the twinkling lamps of peace to suit their evil designs.

Both countries have more reason to have better relations with each other than the fabricated or engineered problems to generate enmity. Both the countries have the same origin of culture, which differs naturally, for the factors of distance, religion and history. Hindi and Urdu are the sister languages, rather, proper to say, Hindi and Urdu are, the same language in practical terms, which differs as dialects of a language differ due to certain factors. It is only the different scripts for which Hindi and Urdu can be named as different languages, whereas, in terms of speaking, it is just one language. The officials of both the countries meet each other without having an interpreter between them.
Our religious heritage comes from India. All parent Madaris of all sects are working in India. The schools of thought of Deoband, Braili, Nadva and Tablighi Jamat have their centers in India, which work for their religion without any restriction or prejudice against them from Hindu masses and the Indian government. They run transaction of billion of rupees each year through charity; they hold religious meetings and processions; so much so, they write and speak against polytheism in loud speakers. They are free to do their activities. Dr Zakir Naik holds grand public meeting, in which he speaks against idol worshipping and invite Hindus to embrace Islam. Many Hindus embrace Islam, but he was never restricted by the Indian Government. The irony is that he was not allowed to hold his programs in the UK, but Indian government never banned him. A tension between India and Pakistan is not acceptable to religious wings of both the countries.
India and Pakistan share Mir, Ghalib, and Momin. Jagjit and Mehdi Hasan are equally popular in both India and Pakistan. Due to the same legacy of literature and history, the present poets, authors and other men of letters find themselves in the same line of thought. A Pakistani Movie “Khuda ke Liey” and an Indian Movie, “My Name is Khan” address the same issues, are eagerly watched and liked by the audience of the both sides. In spite of discouraging environment for the music industry in Pakistan, the musicians of India are still beseeching Pakistani Musician and singers to embellish their flourishing music industry. Our singers and musicians find a warm reception, honor and access to heights in India without any prejudice. Indian masses do not refuse to listen to them because of the fact that they are Pakistanis.
The only problem between Indian and Pakistan is not the engineered issues, but certain persons and groups, who do not want to solve these issues; they generate one issue from the other in a never ending row to suit their designs. They earn their bread by mongering hatred by making a specific issue or an issue specific to some people, the issue of all. Such people are not the true face of any country. 
If European countries, despite having different languages, cultures and a long history of war and aggression against each other, got united for better living, and China and India can initiate trades between them despite having border issues like that with Pakistan, why should India and Pakistan not do the same? We need to emphasize that India and Pakistan have greater grounds to become good neighbours of each other.
War is destruction. Since both the countries are nuclear, war means end of both. We cannot allow ruining both the nations for a few maniacs. When it is conceded that both countries cannot afford the war, then what use is in rearing futile tension?
It is very easy to generate hatred. Set a flag on fire and you will not only bring the armed forces of both the countries at borders, but also will win a medal for patriotism; but where this war will take us to? Will Pakistan be able to occupy India, or India will occupy Pakistan, or the end result, after the war, will be a table talk, if war is not nuclear, because if it is unclear, no one will be alive to celebrate its victory? When after the war you come to tables, why don’t you avert it during the peace time?

War is a mantra of the peculiar sects and individuals who are in need of some job to do and they find this easy job of spreading hatred among the ignorant masses in the name of patriotism. In fact, they are either the foolish friends of their countries or the real traitors.
“Beware of the leader who bangs the drums of war in order to whip the citizenry into patriotic fervour, for patriotism is indeed a double-edged sword. It both emboldens the blood, just as it narrows the mind. And when the drums of war have reached a fever pitch and the blood boils with hate and the mind has closed, the leader will have no need in seizing the rights of the citizenry, [who] infused with fear and blinded by patriotism, will offer up all of their rights unto the leader and gladly so. How will I know? For this I have done. And I am Julius Caesar.”. (Julius Caesar)

pakistani Islam

The Muslims of Pakistan show a poor understanding and bad demonstration of Islam, yet you see how enthusiastic they are in celebration religious events. this is the paradox of their behaviour. this is because they do not interlink different injunctions of Islam with each other. you will find the most corrupt person giving away alms generously in the way of Allah. and the Molvi who receives these alms and skip criticizing his unlawful means of earning as his bread too comes from his ill-gotten money. such people get used to their wrong ways to the to extent that they do not hesitate to bribe God by offering costly animals to Him so that He may extend His protection to their black money.

Islam and Nationalism A Contemporary View



1. Definition:
Nationalism is a political ideology which holds that the state is of primary importance, or adopts the belief that one state is naturally superior to all other States. It is defined as a sentiment or feeling or consciousness of a people for a specific territory; is referred to as the policy of national independence and may describe a nation as a society united under one government known as a state; or as a considerable group of people with a common descent or history; a sentiment based on common cultural characteristics that bind a population together and often produces a policy of national independence or separatism.( Oxford Illustrated Dictionary), “which is a consciousness of and pride in the individual character and spirit of a people as subjectively experienced and hence, leans more readily toward a sense of national unity.” (Webster’s Universal Dictionary)
 2. Arabic Terms Used to refer Nationalism:
 There are three terms used in Arabic to refer to the concept of nationalism:
i)     Al Asabiyah
ii)    AL Qawmiyah
iii)   AL Wataniyah
These terms specify different aspects of nationalism which are told under the term nationalism, though some scholars use these terms interchangeably.
2.1              Al Asabiyah means “tribalism, racism, nationalism and group sentiments”. (Wehr, A Dictionary of Modern Written Arabic)
2.2              Al Qawmiyah means “nationality, nationalism and ethnocentrism.” (Wehr)
2.3              Al Wataniyah means “nationalism, national sentiment and patriotism.”  (Wehr)
 In the real world, however, the different phenomena of these three terms intermingle in different stages of their development that it becomes difficult to differentiate or elucidate them separately in many cases.
2.1            Al Asabiyah:
 Ibn Kahldun describes Al Asabiyah as social cohesion and solidarity, which has been necessary for tribes to survive against the threat to their secure living in the presence of hostile powerful tribes. Ibn Kahldun writes:
“One feels shame, when one’s relatives are treated unjustly or attacked, and one wishes to intervene between them and whatever peril or destruction threatens them.” (Muller)
This feeling entices altruism in one for one’s tribesmen. This altruism is a source of guarantee for mutual security under the aegis of tribalism. The Holy Prophet, (S.A.W) in his early days of preaching, enjoyed this tribal protection, though the chief of the tribe Abu Talib did not embrace Islam but he did not forsake his protection for the Holy Prophet (S.A.W). For the same reason of Asabiyah the tribe of Banu Hashim sided with the Holy Prophet (S.A.W) when all the Quraish boycotted with Banu Hashim despite the fact that not all the Banu Hashim had embraced Islam.  
In this regard Al Asabiyah is a natural instinct. And Islam, being a religion, which corresponds the most what is natural, acknowledges this natural love for one’s own people. A saying of the holy prophet goes:
 Narrated Suraqah ibn Malik ibn Ju'sham al-Mudlaji: “The Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) gave us an address and said: “The best of you is the one who defends his tribe, so long as he commits no sin.” (Abu Daud: Book 41: Hadith 5101)
On the other hand God calls the difference of caste, creed and tribe a sign of His wisdom behind His creation:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا ۚ إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ
عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِير
“O mankind! Lo! We have created you male and female, and have made you nations and tribes that ye may know one another. Lo! The noblest of you, in the sight of Allah, is the best in conduct. Lo! Allah is Knower, Aware.” (79:13)
In the same verse, Allah categorically refutes any claim of superiority on the bases of caste, creed, tribe etc. It is but the “best in conduct” that is superior in the eyes of Allah.
 It is only when the term Asabiyah is associated with negative meaning that it is condemned by Islam. The negative aspect of Asabiyah is defined by the holy prophet (S.A.W) as:
 Narrated by Wathilah ibn al-Asqa: I asked:” Apostle of Allah! What is party spirit (Al Asabiyah)? He replied: That you should help your people in wrongdoing.” (Sunan Abu Daud 5027)
 In this case, Asabiyah can be an equaling to undue favor and partiality to one’s clan, tribe or group of people. The Holy Prophet condemned it:
Narrated Abdullah ibn Mas'ud: “If anyone helps his people in an unrighteous cause, he is like a camel which falls into a well and is pulled out by its tail.”(Abu Daud book 41, 5098)
It is narrated by Abu Daud that the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W) said:
 “He is not one us who calls for `Asabiyah, (nationalism/tribalism) or who fights for `Asabiyah or who dies for `Asabiyah.” (Abu Daud 5121)
2.2.1. Some Historical Evidences:
i)          Asabiyah effected the creation of Umayyad dynasty which was condemned by the then prominent Muslim figures and the common people and in its is wake it caused the tragedy of Karbala in which Husain, the grandson of the Holy Prophet (S.A.W) was slain with his tribesmen; and also the tragedy of Harrah, in which almost the whole population of Madinah was massacred by Umayyad army.
ii)         Abbasids came to power by ousting the Umayyad with the help of Asabiyah. They used not only their clan’s manpower in the name of Asabiyah but the power of Ajam by arousing their resentments against Umayyad dynasty, which was by nature an Arabic Asabiyah. This led the Islamic empire to wasteful civil wars for centuries.
2.2.         Al Qawmiyah:
 Asabiyah develops into Qawmiyah when exceeds from the bounds of tribalism. It grows from the confinement of clan to that of a nation. This phenomenon can well be explained by the European nationalism. The major contribution to the nationalist theory was made by German philosophers such as J.G Herder (1744-1803), Johann Gottlieb Fichte (1762-1814), and G.W.F. Hegel (1770-1831). Also Jacques Rousseau (1712- 1778) supported the theory of nationalism. They wanted to see Germans rule the world, by establishing the Germans the best of all nations. In its reaction, the rest of the European nations developed sentiments of nationalism, too, which led the whole Europe to the most devastating world wars I and II that caused millions of lives to death and maimedness and destruction worth trillions of dollars.
2.2.1. Some Historical Evidences:
i)          It was this syndrome of nationalism which overlapped the Arabs in the 20th century against the great Ottoman Empire and effected its fall in 1924. The facts are recorded as:
In addition, the correspondence of Sharif Husain of Hijaz with McMahan in 1915 resulted in the promise to create a United Arab State if they fought in Collaboration with the British against the Turks. Attracted by this bargain, as well as by the lucrative offer combined with Arab nationalist obsession, Sharif Hussain ordered the Arabs to take sides with British Imperialism against their Turkish Muslim brethren in the First World War. Consciously or unconsciously, but profoundly inspired by the spirit of Arab nationalism, this Arab stabbing of the Turks leant itself toward Turkish defeat. (Ali, 191)
Arab countries celebrated the fall of Ottoman Empire as national event for many years.
ii)         This phenomenon can well be observed in the die-hard conflict of Arab and Ajam (non-Arab). Iran (Persia) despite its being a Muslim country is uniquely characterized as compare to other Muslim Arab countries. Behind this distinction lies the factor of Asabiyah. The division of Arab and Ajam is on the basis of Qawmiyah. Setting aside the long history of Arab-Ajam conflict, only one facet of this conflict is cited here: One can observe that Iran (Persia), the leader of Ajam, having being conquered by Arabs and accepted Islam introduced by Arabs, developed its own version of Islam, which is quite different form all other Islamic countries, with its peculiar Ajamic or Persian perspective and outlook.
As Iqbal puts it:
ذرا سی بات تھی اندیشہٴ عجم نے اسے
بڑھا دیا ھے فقط زیب داستاں کے لیے
“It was but a little point but the philosophy of Ajam enlarged it just to embellish the narrative.”
Despite the great commonality of religion with Arabs, Iran kept itself distinguished from the rest of the Arab. It is observed that “while Islam has been since the seventh century the primary religion of Iran, because of historical and ethnic differences, it has not brought Iran into the pan-Islamic fold made up of Arab nations. (Kessler and MingJi 250)
Also,
“It is interesting to note that Ahmadi-Nejad and other current Iranian leaders’ popularity increases when they emphasize links to the imperial past, rather than association with Islamic principles. While early in the revolution, imperial history was ignored, references to the ‘glorious’ past return when leaders feel the need to unite the country.” (250)
Arabic Asabiyah has always been present in Arab nations but the present-day nationalism is tended to be defined with respect to territorial and geographical confinement of Arab countries, which led them to disintegration from each other. The most evident phenomenon of this disintegration of Arab comity of nations caused by the consciousness of nationalism is that the establishment and existence of the state of Israel is a threat to all Arab countries but they could not unite themselves against their common enemy. They fight it on their own. They fail but do not extend their cooperation to each other.
 “Nasif Yazeji (1800-1871) and Butrus Bustani (1819-1893) are attributed to be the pioneers of Arab nationalism. It is said that Ibrahim Yazeji composed an ode to Arab patriotism highlighting the glories of the Arab race and created a sense of awakening that lead to the rebellion against Turkish Ottoman rule.” (Jameelah 188)
Abul Hasan Ali Nadvi writes describing the condition of Egypt that how the concept of nationalism poured onto the Arab countries and how they imbibed it uncritically without questioning the devastating effects it caused to the Europe:
“Exotic cultural concepts and materialistic philosophies and Movements of the West were being imported freely into Egypt. Its leading intellectuals had dedicated themselves unequivocally to their propagation. The University students and the younger army officers vied with each other in their imitative zeal. Everyone who was discontented with the existing order was anxious to welcome what the West offered. Innumerable books were written in support of the need to westernize which were hurriedly read by immature minds.” (Ali. 91)
2.3.         Al Wataniyah:
 Now we bring in the case of Wataniyah. In this concept the element of land or territory or geography with the sentiments of Asabiyah is inclusive. Two examples are illustrated here: the creation of nation states of Israel and Pakistan in 1948 and 1947 respectively, were based on the concept of Al Wataniyah (Nationalism). The Asabiyah of children of Israel and that of Muslims of subcontinent, particularly of the north western part of the subcontinent, culminated into Al Wataniyah to create nation states.
The concept of nationalism penetrated into the subcontinent in the early twentieth century in the wake of European nationalism. India was a British colony and was assimilating British education, culture, philosophies and cults. Shutting their eyes from the disastrous consequences of European nationalism, the Indian politicians and thinkers adopted it to foster national sentiments to get rid of British rule.
The united India comprises many nations on the basis of caste, creed, race etc in it. Here, Asabiyah was used in a wider scope at the basis of religion to create the sentiments of Qawmiyah which culminated into Al Wataniyah to form two separate countries: India and Pakistan.
There were mainly two schools of thoughts in the Muslim circles of thinkers and scholars regarding Al Wataniyah or nationalism: Those who favored nationalism and those who rejected it. Both the schools of thought claimed their stance supported by Quran and Sunnah; both had great names on their board.
Here we have a look at their arguments. The concept of nationalism was presented under the phrase of “two nation theory” by the proponents of Muslim nationalism. They maintained that in the subcontinent there lived not one homogeneous nation but many nations, two of them are largest ones: Hindus and Muslims. On account of their numbers they are capable of having two separate countries to exercise their own ideologies of life which are so very different to each other. Allama Iqbal, the greatest proponent of this theory, put his concept of religion-based nation state in his rejoinder to Jwahir Lal Nehru in 1933:
“In conclusion I must put a straight question to pundit Jawhar Lal, how is India's problem to be solved if the majority community will neither concede the minimum safeguards necessary for the protection of a minority of 80 million people, nor accept the award of a third party; but continue to talk of a kind of nationalism which works out only to its own benefit? This position can admit of only two alternatives. Either the Indian majority community will have to accept for itself the permanent position of an agent of British imperialism in the East, or the country will have to be redistributed on a basis of religious, historical and cultural affinities so as to do away with the question of electorates and the communal problem in its present form.” (Biography. allamaiqbal.com)
In his poem یعنی وطن بحیثیت ایک سیاسی تصور کے وطنیت (Country being a political concept), he says:

ان تازہ خداؤں میں بڑا سب سے وطن ہے
جو پیرہن اس کا ہے ، وہ مذہب کا کفن ہے
Among the present day gods the greatest one is nationalism
Its apparel is the shroud of the religion.
بازو ترا توحید کی قوت سے قوی ہے
اسلام ترا دیس ہے ، تو مصطفوی ہے
Your strength is Oneness of God your country is Islam,
You, Muslims, are follower of Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W).
اقوام میں مخلوق خدا بٹتی ہے اس سے
قومیت اسلام کی جڑ کٹتی ہے اس سے
This nationalism divides humanity into nations
It cuts off the root of Islamic nationalism.
Iqbal propounded the concept of Islamic nationalism or Islamic brotherhood, which is beyond geographical bounds.
ایک ہوں مسلم حرم کی پاسبانی کے لیے
نیل کے ساحل سے لے کر تابخاک کاشغر
(Bang e Dara: Dunya e Islam)
May all the Muslims from the bank of Nile to the land of Kashghar get united for the defense of Haram (The Holy Kaba)!
He advocated the restoration of Islamic caliphate:
تا خلافت کی بنا دنیا میں ہو پھر استوار
لا کہیں سے ڈھونڈ کر اسلاف کا قلب و جگر
(Bang e Dara: Dunya e Islam)
Find out the heart and soul of your ancestors so that you can restore the foundation of the caliphate in the world.
On the contrary, two great religious and political figures Abul Kalam Azad and Husain Ahmad Madani opposed the idea of two nation theory on the basis of religion, rather advocated Indian nationalism. In his speech in a special session of Indian national Congress in 1923 Abul Kalam stated:
“If an angel were to descend from the clouds today and settle on Delhi’s Qutub Minar and proclaim that India can win Swaraj (self-rule) within tow hours provided that India renounces Hindu-Muslim unity, then I would renounce Swaraj and not unity. Because if Swaraj is delayed that is a loss but to India, but if unity is lost that is a loss to humanity.” (Jahanbegloo)
Abul kalam in his exegetical notes on Surah Al Fatihah writes:
“This is clear that the mind which the Surat-ul- Fatiha depicts is a type of mind which reflects the beauty and the mercy of the God of Universal Compassion. It is in no sense fettered by prejudices of race or nation or other exclusive groupings. It is a mind imbued with Universal Humanism. This is the true spirit of the Quranic invitation.” (Jahanbegloo. qtd Syeda Saiyidain Hameed)
Husain Ahmad Madani another renowned Islamic scholar vigorously opposed the theory of two nations. He said:
"All should endeavor jointly for such a democratic government in which Hindus, Muslims, Sikhs, Christians and Parsis are included. Such a freedom is in accordance with Islam." (qtd. Pakistan Struggle and Pervez. 614). He was of the view that in the present times, nations are formed on the basis of homeland and not on ethnicity and religion. (614)
Iqbal’s ideology succeeded to get the Muslims of North West of the subcontinent a homeland of their aspirations. But the question arises here is that Muslim majority areas of the north west of the subcontinent were not culturally dominated by the Hindus, as was the case cited by the supporters of separate homeland for the Indian Muslims, and in politics they had the option of separate electorate, so no threat to their political identity, it was but the Muslims of Hindu majority provinces which were dominated by Hindus majority and if Muslim identity was in danger, it was the identity of the Muslims of the Hindu majority provinces not of the Muslim majority provinces, but Pakistan was suggested for the areas where such a problem did not exist, at least not in substantial proportion.
Did Iqbal want transformation of the populations that Hindus minority from Muslim majority provinces should have migrated to Hindu majority provinces and Muslims minority form Hindu majority areas to Muslim majority provinces? No such evidence we find in the literature came from Iqbal. Moreover, such a mass exodus was out of question.
It could have been possible that in a federation, all the parts of the subcontinent achieved autonomy along with guarantee to safeguard their cultural, religious and political identities; separation was not necessary. It seems that for the same reason Quaid e Azam agreed to join the interim government under the cabinet mission plan (1946), but it was the non-cooperative attitude of the Indian National Congress and of the Muslim league which led them to the partition.
The Muslims of present India still have their separate identity, no one force them; the influence of the Hindu and Muslim culture is reciprocal.
3. Summary:
The concept of Nationalism has two aspects: negative and positive. One’s natural love for one’s people or country is not only allowed in Islam but appreciated unless no undue favor or partiality is made, or else, it will become Asabiyah which is strictly prohibited in Islam. This Asabiyah in its both three forms: Asabiyah, Qawmiyah and Wataniyah, did more harm to Muslim integrity and unity than good. Arab nationalism played major role to cause the downfall of the Ottoman Empire. The phenomenon of rivalry between Arab and Ajam is another example of pride in nationalism within the fold of Islam.
 Nationalism in its present form is a foreign ideology imported from Europe. Europe suffered two great wars in the twentieth century on the basis of nationalism. But the Muslim countries adopted the ideology uncritically. Nationalism effected the partition of the subcontinent in 1947. Some Islamic scholars like Allama Iqbal in favor of Islamic nationalism emphasized the creation of a nation state to save the Muslims’ religion and culture from the overwhelming Hindu religion and culture. On the contrary, the scholars like Abul Kalam Azad and Husain Ahmad Madani opposed the idea of a nation state on the same basis of religion and supported united Indian nationalism. They were of the opinion that countries are formed on the basis of geography not on religion. Muslims being a universal Ummah should not confine themselves in the boundaries of nation states.
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How to Build Character in the Students: A Few Instructions

Character Building and Transcendental Values:
Transcendental values are of great help in building up of character, but we see that due to lack of belief of the students in the transcendental values it is not a successful formula for character building. One should be vigilant for the moment when a student gives him a reason to correct him or her or improve him or her in a practical way. Students come to college not with a mind with which they go to a mosque or church, or synagogue, so we can’t advise them in the manner with which we can do in the holy places.

Making Students Least Conscious of Didacticism:
Secondly, while telling a student of something about morals, the teacher should tell them when they are least conscious of the fact that they are being taught about it, or else they would shield themselves against your didacticism. On this occasion, I recall a short story by Oscar Wilde, “The Devoted Friend”, in which a Linnet tells a story to a Water-rat. The Water-rat listens to the whole story with great interest, but when he came to know that it had a moral in it, he reacted. I would like to quote it from the story to make my point clear:
"I am afraid you don't quite see the moral of the story," remarked the Linnet.
"The what?" screamed the Water-rat.
"The moral."
"Do you mean to say that the story has a moral?"
"Certainly," said the Linnet.
"Well, really," said the Water-rat, in a very angry manner, "I think you should have told me that before you began. If you had done so, I certainly would not have listened to you; in fact, I should have said 'Pooh,' like the critic. However, I can say it now"; so he shouted out "Pooh" at the top of his voice, gave a whisk with his tail, and went back into his hole.
The linnet said to the duck, "I am rather afraid that I have annoyed him," answered the Linnet. "The fact is that I told him a story with a moral."
"Ah! That is always a very dangerous thing to do," said the Duck.
And I quite agree with her.
Personal Example:
The third point is that we should set a personal example to teach what we want to teach. This can be the most effective tool to make possible the purpose of character building with the students.
Carrot and Stick:
The fourth point is that for the defiant and stubborn students, we should have a coercive system to make them act upon what is required. Forceful inculcation does bring results after a while; moreover, it helps to stop the infection of bad morals spread. So we should have a stick in one hand when we offer a carrot in the other.

Love Woman and the Quran

“(Follow) the nature on which God created the people” (Quran, 30:30)
Islam is the religion of nature. It confirms what is natural and rejects unnatural. Islam draws the parameters, which ensures the healthy growth of the human personality.

Love, indeed, is the most conspicuous, rather the theme of human life. It is love which makes life livable and pleasant; it sweetens its bitterness, mitigates its pains; makes hell, a heaven and without it a heaven becomes a hell.
Nature cannot deny love, nor does Islam. Islam acknowledges love as a natural exigency. Some religions taught celibacy to get higher status in the eyes of God. Whereas Quran says that Allah calls this attraction between the opposite sexes a sign of His artistic creation:
“ And among His signs is this that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them and He has put between you  affection and mercy.” (30.21)
And one step further, Quran depicts the love of woman in man’s heart the foremost in the line of the objects of charm and favour:
“Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: of women and of children and hoarded heaps of gold and silver, well-bred horses, and tilled land and cattle.”(3:14)
In the coming passages, we will see what guidance we can extract from the holy Quran about love, particularly, of women’s love for man, in its two forms: Love and Lust. We will see what true love is; how it is expressed in a decent way; how love becomes lust and how lust turns into love.
 The part of the story of the Moses which tells of his arrival at Median, after his escape from arrest by the Egyptian police for the murder of an Egyptian, though unintentionally by him, is the manifestation of the true and decent love of a woman for a man.
The Holy Quran narrates:
“So he (Moses) left the city, afraid, apprehensive, (and) prayed, “O, lord deliver me from these wicked people.” Then he turned his face to Midian, he said: “maybe my Lord will show me the right way,” and when he came to waters of Midian he found a crowd of people watering (their flocks), and saw two maidens holding back (their cattle). He asked (the maidens): “what is the trouble with you?” they said: “we cannot water our flock till the shepherds have driven away theirs, and our father is a very old man.” So he watered (their flocks), and moved into the shade and prayed “My Lord, I have need of whatever good you send me.”    (28:21)
Moses’ prayer came true. The girls told the whole story to their father. The father wished to welcome such a good fellow. He sent one of his daughters to bring him to the home. The Quran tells the story:
“Then one of the (maidens) came to him and walking bashfully, and said:” my father invites you that he may repay you for having watered our flock.”
The tradition says that on their way to home, Moses asked the girl to walk behind him so that he could avoid his gaze falling on the girl.
Moses told his story to the old man. The old man assured him of safety and shelter. Is was quite possible that Moses might forward his journey to some indefinite  destination after enjoying the hospitality of the grateful old man of Median, then, it so happens that apparently, a very small thing changes the whole course. The girl asked her father:
“O father, employ him. Surly, the best (man) to employ is one who is strong and honest.” 
She must have impressed by the strong and the honest Moses, and why not? He was a real man. He helped the girls out in need and hurled out the huge bucket single handedly from the well, which many men hurled out together, and watered the girls’ goats. He had asked the girl to walk behind him for the sake of modesty. All this must have had strong impression on her. In addition, Moses would be very handsome. Quran says that the stone-hearted Pharaoh, who, at first, wanted to kill the infant Moses, altered his mind after watching his pretty face:
“But I cast love over you (Moses) from me.”(20:39)
The girl could find no vulgar or indecent way, below her dignity, to express her feelings for Moses. All she could say was only to her farther.
What she chose Moses for? Not for wealth or status, he had none. She chose him for sublimity of his character.
Now we see the father’s reaction. No sooner did he sense the heat of love in his daughter’s heart for Moses than he declared the prospects of her Nikah with Moses:
“He said: ““I would like to marry one of these two daughters of mine to you if you agree to work for me on hire for eight years. And if you stay on for ten, it is up to you. I do not wish to impose any hardship on you”” (Moses) said:” This is (agreed) between you and me. Whichever term I fulfill, no injustice will be done to me. God is witness to our agreement.”
 The old man maintained a dignified position by not nominating that girl specifically:
“One of these two daughters of mine.”
He satisfied his daughter on one hand, and on the other, he put the condition on Moses of spending eight or ten years there, so that, he  could have enough time to supervise and train the young man who was going to be his son in law, to ensure the future of her daughter in the pious and trustworthy hands. One can see that no aspect of human nature and decorum of social norms were ignored.
If love is painted something like sin or an indecency in itself, it will generate negative emotions in the person who suffers from love. One becomes guilty to God and conscience. One’s personality splits: either one leads a life of agony or rebels against the religion and the society.
The story of Moses and girl also tells what qualities of opposite gender strike the strings of heart and create the real music of love. A man should be manly. He should lower his gaze when confront a woman.
Such a man is honest and trustworthy in the eyes of a woman. In short a man should be “Strong and honest”.
Now, lend attention to the words:  “Walking bashfully”
Quran never uses superfluous words. To mention the gait of a woman contains meaningful implications. Gait is the mirror of personality, an indicator of character. An immodest woman needs no advertisement, but erotic gait to show her characterless character. And a modest woman is, at first, recognized by her modest gait.To man, modesty in woman is the foremost feature which knocks at his heart to open a window to welcome the breeze of love. Every man by nature is intolerant of immodesty in his woman, whether he is of East or West. Modesty regulates the otherwise uncontrollable passion of love. In its parameters love can find only decent ways to get expressed.
The second versions of love i.e. the show of lust and defiance of modesty is told in the story of Joseph and the woman of Egypt.
Joseph was brought up in the palace of the Egyptian governor. He grew up extremely beautiful. The governor’s wife lost her heart to him. But her love was yet earthly. She just wanted to have sex with him. The Quran tells the story:
“But she in whose house he was, sought to seduce him from his self: she closed the doors, and said:” now come into me!” He said:” Allah forbid! Truly (your husband) is my lord! He made my sojourn agreeable! Truly to no good come those who do wrong!” and with passion did she desired him and he would have desired her, but that he saw the evidence of his Lord: thus (did we order) that We might turn away from him evil and shameful deeds: for he was one of Our servants, sincere and purified.”(12:23, 24)
With the woman in her mad passion the situation became intolerable and Joseph made for the door:
“So they both raced each other to the door, and she tore his shirt from the back: they both found her lord (the woman’s husband) near the door. She said: “what is the (fitting) punishment for one who found an evil design against your wife, but prison or grievous chastisement.” He (Joseph) said: “it was she who sought to seduce me from my self”. And one of her household saw (this) and bore witness, (thus): “if it be that his shirt is rent from the front, Sthen is her tale true and he is liar! But if it be that his shirt is torn from the back, and then is she liar and he is telling the truth!” (12:25, 26, 27)
Joseph was proved innocent. 
The affair leaked out and became a hot gossip among the ladies of the royal families. The woman invited the women of the royal house and:
“She prepared a banquet for them: she gave them a knife; and she said to the Joseph “come out before them.” When they saw him they extol him, and (in their amazement) cut their hands: they said “Allah preserve us! No mortal is he! This is none other than a noble angel. She said “there before you is the man about whom you did blame me! I did seek to seduce him from his self but he did firmly save himself guiltless! And now, if he does not my bidding, he shall certainly be cast into prison, and (what is more) be in the company of the vilest! (12:31, 32) 
But Joseph reacted:
“O, my Lord! The prison is more to my liking than that which they invite me:” (12:33)
He was sent to prison to save the name of royal house. Joseph spent several years in prison.
Then the king of Egypt had a dream. Joseph interpreted the dream for him. He was pleased. He sent him for. But Joseph refused to come out unless an investigation into case was held. The king held the investigation. All the women involved confessed that he was innocent:
“Allah preserve us! No evil know we against him!”(12:51)
The wife of the governor, on her part, must have become guilty to her own conscience for putting her beloved behind the bar for his insistence to keep himself innocent; and also the nobility of his character must have left strong impression on her thoughts. She must have spent same years in the prison of her conscience as did Joseph in the prison. She must have led the same years in agony of guilt as Joseph did in the grief in the darkness of the prison. This languish might have helped her lust to grow into love. Now, she could see beyond her ego. She declared publicly in the court unhesitantly, unreservedly:
“Now is the truth manifest (to all): it was I who sought to seduce him from his self: he is indeed of those who are (ever) true.”(12:51)
If our elders follow the example of the wise old man of Median, allow lawful outlet to their emotions and our youth had confidence in them that their voice will be listened to with sympathetic heart and their elders would pave the way for their lawful choice for life partner, instead of making it unnecessararily a matter of their ego and prestige, what would the young people waste their lives for, by committing suicide, making themselves prey to narcotics, leading a life of painful reverie or living a life of compromise?
The youth must distinguish lust from love. Lust is not love; it is mere an animal instinct, a pleasure which ends in greater displeasure. If Joseph had yield to the lust he would have in greater prison of conscious and greater agony of guilt and remorse than the pains of the prison he was in, with a satisfied conscience.
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